What others think of you doesn’t matter. That’s what people say. And its both the truth and it isn’t. We thrive on the complements of others, on them agreeing with us. We want others to like us. We hurt and panic when others think of us as weird, as strange. And these things shouldn’t matter to us. So, we say ‘What others think of you doesn’t matter’
Others opinions matter. We follow the crowd. and having anxiety makes things worse.
I’m currently making changes in my life, changes that I want to make to create a healthier life for me. Both mentally and physically.
One of those changes is to bring my own bags to when I go shopping. So, I have been doing that for every store I go to.
And I am going to be honest, its not easy for someone with anxiety to have to push myself to speak up to the cashier to tell them that I want to use this reusable bag.
But I am doing it.
Because this is something that I want to do. Because I feel that it is within my values to do this.
And yes, going around with the stuff you bought in a reusable bag is something that causes one’s anxiety to skyrocket with thoughts of people making fun of you or thinking you look weird.
But I still do it.
For one, I know that I am better than my anxiety. I know that I am stronger than this. And because I am doing this for a reason.
I am doing this because this is who I want to be.
And I need to live for me.
Because I must live with myself. I have to life for what I value. And I think that should be the same for you.
Because when you go against your values for others it just makes everything worse. Sure, it might lessen the anxiety of standing out from the group.
But it hurts your opinion of yourself.
And you are the only person that has to live with yourself for life.
You have to deal with you 24/7.
So, think about your values, think about what you want out of your life.
And if you have to put yourself out there a little bit then so be it.
Because if you can live and push through the other problems that your anxiety pushes at you. Then you can find away to overcome what you need to so that you can do what needs to be done to live for your values.
So that you can live for you.
Because if I can put myself out their and continue even with my anxieties of someone thinking I’m weird for using reusable shopping at the mall.
Then you can get through your anxiety too so that you can live for your values whatever they may be.